Is It a Problem That My Desire Is Getting Stronger?

Spoiler: No. It might be the most honest signal your body has ever sent.

1. First, Let's Ask: Why Does This Question Even Exist?

Why do so many women ask themselves, "Why do I want more?"
Because we've been raised inside a culture that teaches women to be careful with their desire. That it's dangerous. Messy. Too loud. Too inconvenient. Something to "manage," or hide.

So when your body suddenly begins to feel more—whether that means more sensation, more craving, more fantasies—you might panic.

But here's the truth:

You're not "too much." You're finally in touch.

2. What Does Stronger Desire Actually Mean?

When desire grows, it's not a sign that something's wrong.
It's a sign that something inside you is waking up.

You might be:

• Feeling safer in your body or relationship
• Recovering from trauma or suppression
• Exploring your sensuality after years of silence
• Moving through a hormonal phase that amplifies connection

None of this is broken.
None of this is dangerous.
This is your body, remembering its own language.

3. Why Is This Happening?

What Experts in Sexology and Neuroscience Say

We're not the only ones saying this.
Sex therapists and researchers around the world are noticing a shift: more women are reporting increased desire. And science backs it up.

🧠 Desire Is Not Fixed — It’s Responsive

Dr. Emily Nagoski, author of Come As You Are, explains that women's sexual desire is contextual, not spontaneous like most male desire.

"Women's desire grows when there is emotional safety, curiosity, and room to breathe. The more we nurture it, the more it shows up."
— Dr. Emily Nagoski

Translation? The more you allow pleasure, the more your brain begins to crave it. It's called neuroplasticity—your brain actually rewires around what feels good and safe.

🔥 The Rebound Effect After Suppression

Dr. Tammy Nelson, sex and relationship therapist, says women often experience a surge in desire after periods of self-denial—like post-divorce, motherhood, or therapy.

"When women stop putting themselves last, their sensuality comes rushing back."
— Dr. Tammy Nelson

This is not excess.
This is your body finally speaking up after being silenced for too long.

💫 Hormonal Waves & Biochemical Desire

Your cycle, your stress levels, your sleep, even your diet—all influence how much you desire intimacy.

✔️ Ovulation increases libido naturally
✔️ Perimenopause can heighten body awareness
✔️ Emotional connection triggers oxytocin, increasing craving for closeness

It's biology, not pathology.

🌍 A Cultural Reclamation of Female Pleasure

For centuries, female desire was taboo. Now? We're taking it back.

Thanks to sex-positive educators like Esther Perel, Emily Morse, and the Goop community, women are:

• Learning the science of arousal
• Embracing body literacy
• Unlearning shame, one orgasm at a time

This isn't just a personal feeling.
It's a generational shift.

4. But What If It Feels Like Too Much?

Sometimes, yes—it feels big.
You might fantasize more. Crave touch more.
Feel restless in a way you can't explain.

That doesn't mean you're addicted. Or unstable.
It means your body might be asking for connection, attention, or expression.
Listen to it—not with judgment, but with care.

Desire is not a disruption. It's data.

5. Desire Is Not a Problem—It’s Power

At Yasmemua, we don't view women's desire as a medical issue.
We see it as a form of intelligence.

It tells you:

• When you feel safe
• What your body needs
• Where your emotional needs lie
• What parts of you are still longing to be touched—physically or emotionally

And the best part?
Desire doesn't need to be acted on to be valid. It's not always about sex.
Sometimes, it's about being fully alive.

6. What Can You Do with All This Feeling?

💜 Don't shame it.
You are not wrong for feeling more.

💜 Get curious.
What are you really desiring—touch, attention, intimacy, peace?

💜 Explore softly.
Use wellness tools, solo rituals, and safe exploration to reconnect with your body on your terms.

💜 Talk about it.
Desire thrives in spaces where it’s seen and spoken. We're creating that space with you.

🟣 Final Thought

If your desire is growing, perhaps so is your courage.
Your awareness. Your wholeness.

This isn't a signal that something is wrong—
It's a sign that something long-neglected is ready to be seen, felt, and honored.

At Yasmemua, we believe that desire is not something to suppress.
It's something to understand. To care for. To meet with curiosity and gentleness.

Because your body was never the problem.
The silence around it was.